HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF-IMAGE- 10 HABITS TO INCREASE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
To put it in simple words, self-esteem is being happy with yourself and feeling worthy of the good things that happen in your life just as if they will happen to someone else. After having gone through some unpleasant experiences, it is the false ideas that we get about ourselves, that establish our worth as a person . Today I'm going to give you 10 practical tips so you can increase your self-esteem.
1. The beliefs we have of ourselves are not absolute truths. In an investigation of a very prestigious university, the perception that people have of themselves was studied. In that study, it was concluded that a person has an unfavorable concept of himself compared to the idea that others have. That is, you are 10 to 15% more beautiful than you perceive.
In that study, everyone had to draw a picture of the person in front of him and another picture of himself. People with low self-esteem used to draw themselves uglier than other people perceived. Everyone was amazed at the drawings of others, since they were unable to see for themselves their own beauty.
2. Don't punish yourself for your mistakes. Don't treat yourself badly. If a friend had the same problem, surely you wouldn't talk to him as you speak to yourself. Surely you wouldn't humiliate him. Treat yourself with love, with indulgence. Surely you have done the best you could at that moment, because if you could or could have thought of something better, you would have done it differently.
3. Forgive yourself if you made a wrong decision, it was not with bad intentions, be reasonable with yourself to avoid future mistakes. Start working your limits, learn to say no when there is something you do not want to do, if it does not convince you or you do not like it, because if you do not set your limits, the others will, and that will end up making you feel bad. remember that you have no obligation to do anything you don't want.
4. We are all the same, there is no one superior, there is no one who is more, there is no need to admire a person because of the titles, more knowledge or more money. Those people will be different from you, but that does not mean they are better. people want to make you believe that the more you have, the more you are worth because that is a way to get over you whenever they can, and maybe you are allow them to do so. You don't care what others say. Every time you worry about what someone might be thinking about you, think that that person may also be worried about what you may be thinking about him or her.
5. Reserve half an hour every day for you to do whatever you want that give you pleasure or personal satisfaction. Take your time every day to do something you really enjoy, like taking a long shower, reading a chapter of your favorite novel, taking a walk, sunbathing, whatever you like. Always remember that the most important thing is that you feel good.
6. Accept yourself here and now. We all have the requirement of the future. Well, if I did this or that, everything would be better for me, or I would be a great person if I achieved this and started doing that. Those are phrases based on a future that has not yet arrived and that prevents us from accepting ourselves here and now.
These phrases always postpone our self-acceptance and so we will always feel useless. The important thing is that you do not need to change anything with you because you are already worthy, whatever your personal characteristics are. The answer to accept yourself is not in the future is here and now. Your happiness is yours, your happiness does not depend on the events but on your opinion about those events.
7. Happiness depends on you. although others may influence sometimes but the reality is that it depends on you. Try to feel happy five minutes a day, not for something specific, just feel happy. This happiness will increase. if you practice it may help you remember how you felt an specific happy day in your life, and bring that moment to the present
8. Recognize and look at the positive side of your mistakes. We will always make mistakes because we have no instruction book to go through life. Life is our way to that instruction book that gives us learning. Making mistakes does not make us useless. We are human and we should recognize our mistakes. It is a sign of maturity and self-esteem
9. Admit praise. We reject praise because others have taught us that they are not good, because it makes us vain. many answer with ... Well, it is not so much or, I could have done better, but when someone praises us for a good job and we do not accept the compliment, there is no modesty. There is the insecurity of not feeling completely deserving. Recognize when you do things right and let others appreciate it. It is not a matter of answering a compliment by saying…. i'm good. Right? I have done very well! But accept it with a thank you.
10. Don't try to please or want to please everyone. People's appreciation is not earned by changing what you are, but by understanding that not everyone will like you. Try to say what you really think instead of saying what others want to hear from you. This does not mean that you can say what you want without respecting others, but that your ideas are as important as anyone else's, even if the others do not agree with you, do not betray yourself, your truth or your ideas to please others because you will feel dishonest with you will attract people who are not convenient for you. Watch video
